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Masturbating For The First Time
I remember like it was like yesterday when I first discovered the power of the shower faucet.
I was 11 years old and was taking a bath or a shower.
I don’t really remember that particular detail, but what I do remember was how horny I felt.
Since I was only 11 at the time, no one had yet explained to me what masturbation was or what that “funny” feeling between my legs was or how powerful it could be.
I was young.
All I knew was that I had an itch that needed to be scratched.
Suddenly, a lightbulb went off in my head, and I got a marvelous idea.
I laid down in the tub and spread my legs on either side of the faucet and let the water pressure do its work.
Next thing I know, I got this really intense, phenomenal feeling.
Once it was over I was so calm and happy that I did not want to get up.
That was my first masturbation experience.
It was glorious and strange all at the same time because I had never experienced something so intense yet pleasurable.
This what I need during my younger years!
Caught, Red Handed
Needless to say, from there on out, the shower faucet became my new best friend and masturbation became part of my daily routine.
Everyday after school, I couldn’t wait to do it…until I was caught by my mother.
Can you think of anything more traumatizing than having your mother catch you with your legs in the air? Cause I can’t!
Luckily, my mother was very kind about it.
In her attempt to not make me feel like a total pervert, she explained to me why it felt good and why it was okay.
Only to be careful and not do it too often because I could hurt myself.
Even though I was comforted by the fact that I wasn’t some type of freak, the shock and embarrassment I felt from having my mother catch me was enough to make me stop masturbating… until I learned about the back massager.
The Second Cumming
My first unofficial vibrator.
Ushering in a new era of masturbating, the back massager gave me a new sense of self-pleasure.
In all honesty, I have no idea how I figured out that a vibrating sensation between my legs would give me intense pleasure. So I am just going to blame it on evolution.
My body knew that it would feel good, but me, 13-year-old Mía, had absolutely no idea. She was too preoccupied with learning algebra.
What I do recall is how much Micheal Kelso from That 70’s Show got me going.
So we are going to blame this discovery on him.
Masturbation, The Old-Fashion Way
After using the back massager off and on again for several years and almost getting caught, I eventually stopped masturbating entirely until 18.
That’s when I discovered… my fingers!
I know, I know! 18 years old and just figuring out that my fingers could make me feel just as amazing as a shower faucet.
It took a while to get to that conclusion, but I made it there on my own time like everything else.
As you can tell, growing up, I have had periods where I masturbated almost every day and, at times, none at all.
Obviously not very consistent. But what was consistent was my curiosity about masturbation.
Masturbation And What I Wish I Knew About
I was always finding new ways to make myself feel good. Whether it be through the use of my fingers, the back massager or the almighty shower faucet.
It wasn’t until I was about 15 years old and had my first sex-ed class that I learned what I was doing was called masturbation.
And according to my sex ed class, it was a big no no, for girls of course.
I learned it as if it was something that you should not be doing because you don’t want to ruin yourself before you get married.
I did not like that lesson.
All I knew from the ages of 11-15 was that when I put pressure between my legs, it felt good. If I did it for long enough, it felt incredible.
The Real Facts About Masturbating
My mother (bless her heart) did not know how to talk to me about it at the time. In trying to keep the lesson as G rated as possible, she missed a few key components.
- It’s called masturbating.
- Masturbation is something you usually do in private by yourself.
- Not everyone will be into it or have the desire to do it, and that’s okay.
- The worst that can happen from masturbating “too much” is skin irritation.
- So be sure to use lots of lube or watch That 70’s Show.
- If you masturbate a lot, it doesn’t impact the value that you bring into a sexual relationship with another person (If anything, it’s better because you learn more about your body and what you do and don’t like).
While my mother missed these few pieces of advice, she did her best.
But I wish that as I grew up and moved into puberty and high school, I was educated more about masturbation.
More about it’s positive benefits and its place in my life.
Not in the abstinence-only “if you touch yourself too much, you’ll break yourself before anyone else gets to play with you cause you’re a pretty little doll who doesn’t do such naughty things” type bullshit education model that I received.
That type of shit fucked me up and traumatized me into thinking I was a corrupted deviant. Which I am but in a much more enthusiastic way now.
Knowledge is Power
As a 22-year-old woman, who masturbates pretty often, I feel that if I knew these things from a younger age, I would’ve been more secure in my sexuality and who I am.
I have always been a very sexual person.
If I would’ve known that that was okay and that many kids from a young age discover the pleasure of touching their own genitals, maybe I wouldn’t have felt like such an outcast.
But I want to leave y’all with this.
Masturbating is perfectly normal.
It feels fucking incredible, and many people do it every day, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Some people do it more often than others, and others don’t do it at all, and THAT’S OKAY!
It’s actually scientifically good for you, and there are so many different ways you can engage in it, just be safe and do your research.
- Planned Parenthood | Does Excessive Masturbation Have Health Risks?